There comes a stage in one’s life when daughters think that whatever is going around them, is getting wrong. They feel a degree of confusion and depression in their lives especially in the age of twenties. Keeping a balance between roots and wings is very important. However, there are some important points which the parents should keep in their minds and they should not be told to them ever in their lives. There should be an understanding level between the parents and children which may lead to friendship and a stronger bond among themselves. Parents should talk with, communicate with and help daughters with all the issues,however,there are certain things which should be avoided from the parents to talk to their daughters.
There is a huge difference between the thoughts of young girls and young boys. Girls have their own dreams for future and if parents try to react with them negatively, daughters might not say anything to them, but there will be a negative impact in their lives. For example, if a daughter wants to become a teacher by profession in future, and the parents say that you are a little young for these future plannings. This statement will definitely break her heart and her confidence will be lost. Parents should interrupt but in a manner that the young’s mind should not be double faced.
Parents are definitely much concerned for their child’s likes and dislikes. There is no confusion that parents want the best for their little ones. But on the other hand, they should also keep themselves in mind that daughters or even the boys, have their own potentials and strengths in their life. They have a decision making power which if motivated properly, can give their lives a boom. In education, parents spend a lot on the daughter’s grooming and for the best academic result. But,if, God forbid, they she does not achieve up to the mark, then parents should not lose their hope and expectations. Rather, they should motivate and strengthen the believes that Yes!!! their daughter will perform the best in future.
Unfortunately, there is a huge GENDER misconception in today’s society which has created a hindrance line among the girls and boys talents. People very easily differentiate the tasks which can be performed by men and women, which ultimately, creates a level of demotivate in girls. Parents should realize this fact that girls can perform all the possible tasks and they should not be stopped in their professional careers. For example, in the old days, parents treated girls very badly. They were not allowed to get good education and parents simply used to say that it was not the job of girls, which was totally the tone of illiteracy.
The best way to increase the talent and thinking process of daughters is to let them try and choose the best for themselves. Saying it every time, that she is wasting her time and forcing her to adopt your preferences will be might a torture for her. Let her try different options and select the best for herself. Parents are not allowed to demotivate their daughters especially in their professional and academic career.
Gender differences are good and exciting but sometimes, doing it a lot, can create frustration in your daughter’s mind. Decorating your daughter’s room in all pink in a different thing and setting a ladylike image of your daughter is totally a separate thing. Every time discussing their weakness will not play a positive role in their lives, but eventually will lead them in frustration and hopeless life.
The age of puberty and adolescence is very important stage for daughters and their parents. In this stage of life, usually the moms, point out their daughters about their physical body changes and threatens them about the negative consequences about their health. Awareness is good but not up to that level that lowers the feelings of girls.
When your daughter is little, she may be fond of your closet or may be she has so many ideals in her family. But, once she is grown up, she would like her own identity, her own likes and dislikes in life. if you will compare her with others, the ultimate result will be totally wrong. try to admire her, try to like what she is wearing. In case, her dressing and personality needs any improvement, communicate with her in such a way that does not look bad.
There exist different types of parents in the society. Some of them appreciate their daughter if they put on heavy makeup, while others dislike. Let them live their own life. Do not force and burden them. If they want to wear skirts, do aware them their negative impacts, but do not pressurize them.
Boys can speak every thing of their choice whenever they want, which is wrong. Whereas, on the other hand, girls are not allowed to speak even if they are finding anything wrong going around them. They have to absorb every cruelty or harsh actions by others. If they try to speak the truth, they have been stopped by others.
Forcing your child to wear long dresses not other dresses of their own choice is wrong. They have their own personality and let them learn through their own life experience.